Lessons from the Fall of Jered

“End? No, the journey doesn’t end here…” -Gandalf

Once again I find myself recounting another seasonal journey into the abyss. The Fall of Jered is now complete. All things considered, it  was not nearly as dramatic as other famous falls. The falls of Gandalf, Anakin, and Harvey Dent were far more epic.  Does this mean the fall was a farce? Nothing more than a clever play-of-words to describe the period immediately succeeding the highs of the summer? Not quite. While life did not come to an untimely end, lessons were learned and realizations were made. Speaking of which…

Dating is difficult. While this probably does not come as a surprise to anyone, its a subject I’ve reflected over a great deal during the Fall. Take dating for instance. Two people engage in a pseudo romantic rendezvous in order to determine if there is interest in one another. One would think it were simple as expressing interest. Unfortunately, it rarely is. There is the risk of coming off as too eager. An element of the dating game I don’t think I will ever understand. Not to mention the natural fear of rejection. Something far easier to overcome in principal than in practice. And lets not forget the simple matter of dating etiquette. Who should pay on the first date? When is it okay to go in for the kiss? How many dates should one engage in before its time for the talk? So many layers of difficulty, so little time. I think I would rather just battle 7 evil exes and be done with it.

Its better to be busy than bored.  A part of me would be completely content sleeping in until noon, playing video games for eight hours, and then returning to bed with no other responsibilities. However, even if I could somehow negotiate a career allowing for the amount of free time required for such a life, I would not welcome it. You would think if our minds were at constant rest they would be filled with productive thoughts. Sadly, this is not the case. Instead, we usually dwell on the things in our lives we are unhappy with. Keeping busy enables us to focus on what we can control, thus making for a more satisfying existence. With that said, it is also important to take a moment to stop and smell the roses lest we lose sight of what truly matters.

The ability to emotionally distance one’s self from uncomfortable situations can be a blessing and a curse. My grandma’s health has been on a steady decline over the last year.  So when I got the call on the phone she had passed away I was less surprised than perhaps I might have been otherwise. Between the every day concerns of life, and the realization my grandma probably didn’t have many years left I slowly became distanced emotionally from her.  While this enabled me to deal with the shocking news, this disconnectedness from hard situations is not without its drawbacks.  For one, it makes it far more difficult to comfort others who may be more affected by the same bad news. Also, when it comes to engaging in those necessary emotionally charged events, there is a tendency to put up barriers that make dealing with things far more difficult. Thus, its important to avoid completely insulating one’s self from emotion. Unless of course your trying to become a Jedi, in which case its a necessity.

We control our destiny for better or worse. While I still believe in a certain level of providence, its become clear sitting back and allowing things to happen accomplishes little. Even if we are players in a game that has already been decided, we still make our own decisions. We control our action (or inaction). If there is something we want, we have go out and get it. Its possible we might fail. Though if we don’t at least try, we most definitely will. In the immortal words of John F. Kennedy, “There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction.”

 

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3 thoughts on “Lessons from the Fall of Jered

  1. Hanna says:

    I like your blog’s simplicity 🙂

  2. Steve says:

    “The mind is everything – what you think, you become” – Buddha

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